Why Women Don’t Want Sex – And How to Fix It…
If I had a nickel for every time Hormone Replacement Therapy created an imbalance in a marriage, I’d have a LOT of nickels. Here’s a story that happens so frequently, I just had to make a video. HRT is for both Men AND Women. And when they’re not on the same page, disaster is inevitable.
Today we’re going to address a topic that’s often an issue in a lot of marriages. In fact, two of the top reasons for divorce are lack of finances and the absence of intimacy. Sex… it’s the only thing you share with your partner that you don’t share with anyone else on the planet. It’s the foundation of every successful marriage you’ll ever encounter. And if we’re being honest, it’s the sole reason you asked her out on that first date… to get in her pants. It’s what everybody watching this video wants, whether they admit it or not… a loving relationship filled with frequent sexual reciprocity.
So here’s the scenario… and it happens all of the time… We have a guy that comes to Viking Alternative because he’s feeling symptoms of Low T. One of the problems he’s experiencing is a decrease in libido. Another common issue is he has Erectile Dysfunction. So here’s a man that rarely feels like having sex, and when he does, he performs miserably… embarrassingly… Which obviously doesn’t help his libido or his self-confidence.
And if that’s not bad enough, he’s let himself gain a few pounds over the years, he’s frequently irritated, and he’s constantly tired. He might even have high blood pressure, maybe some high cholesterol… all from years of poor lifestyle choices. And more often than not, he’s on a medication or two in an effort to control these issues; and with those medications, come side effects… which is more sexual dysfunction… This dude is a mess.
Now what do you think his relationship with his spouse is like? I’ll tell you what it’s like. It’s not him and his wife anymore… it’s him and his female roommate. If you’re not having sex on a regular basis, you’re roommates. Plain and simple. In fact the only benefit to being in THIS relationship… happens at tax time.
But stay tuned because the story does have a happy ending…
So he comes to Viking and we have him get labs, he has a lengthy consultation with a member of our medical staff, they determine a course of action, and we treat him for a Hormonal Deficiency. A couple of months later he’s feeling better than he has in years… decades… he’s watching what he eats and exercising because he’s finally seeing results again. His doctor asks what he’s been doing because if things continue to progress at this pace, he can stop taking his meds soon. His sex drive is through the roof and not only that, but he now has the ability to perform in the bedroom. This isn’t magic… it’s science. Self-confidence and increased blood flow do wonders for a man’s sex life.
But the story isn’t happy yet… we’ve solved one problem, but created another. What we’ve inadvertently done is cause an imbalance; a disruption in the Force. Everything was in alignment when both parties agreed they’d only have sex once a month. But now he’s a machine… and she doesn’t want any part of it.
As you can imagine, we now have a recipe for disaster. We have a man that feels good about himself, he’s looking better than he has in years, and he now has the sex drive of a 20 year old. And we have a woman that doesn’t want him to touch her. What could possibly go wrong?
But before we solve this problem, let’s talk about why this situation exists in the first place… It’s because as he was letting himself go year after year, she was doing the exact same thing. On top of that, her Estrogen, Testosterone, and Progesterone levels were becoming increasingly unstable. Out of balance. And just like a man, this imbalance reduces libido, promotes weight gain, lowers energy levels and intensifies mood swings. And if that isn’t bad enough, the decreasing levels of Human Growth Hormone in her body have prematurely aged her skin, removed the color from her hair, she can’t sleep… and depending on her age, she might be experiencing Hot Flashes. She’s just as much of a mess as he was. She just hides it better.
And when a woman doesn’t feel good about herself… you have a better chance of being struck by lightning than you do of getting lucky.
But she doesn’t want to be like that. So here’s where the story starts turning around… she sees the progress in her husband. She wonders if the same thing could work for her.
We bring her into Viking. She completes the same intake process and has a consultation with a medical professional. Based upon her labs, a treatment program is created. We fix the hormonal imbalance and bring everything back into alignment. In a few weeks she’s now finding it easier to lose weight, she can sleep again, no more hot flashes, her emotions aren’t riding a roller coaster all day long. She’s starting to feel good about herself… and yes… she wants sex as badly, and as often, as he does.
As a testimony to this progression, when the kids come over to visit, they’re constantly telling the new and improved couple how gross they are… Get a Room… Stop… that’s nasty. The kids are like, “I don’t know what’s gotten into the two of you”.
But we do.
And that’s where the Happy Ending really begins. We’ve taken two people that hadn’t purposely allowed a rift to enter their marriage, hadn’t planned on letting their health slide. But it did. Two people who’s lives were stagnant, boring, unhealthy, unfulfilling… And it all happened so slowly that neither of them even realized it. Until one day… one of them had enough. They found the courage to make a change. And seeing the benefits first hand, the other eventually made the decision to follow suit.
They now have the energy needed to keep up with their grandchildren, they look forward to traveling, they dress differently, they’re active, they’re playful… they’re as much in love now as they thought the were the day they got married. And yes… they’ve become “That Couple”… the one where some random wife smacks her husband and says, “Why can’t you be more like him?” And as he realizes what she’s talking about, he thinks to himself, “I could be… if you were more like her.”
Now I’d think this all of this was just crazy talk if I hadn’t experienced most of this story in my own relationship. So I know it’s real. There are many reasons couples grow apart, but the core issue always comes back to intimacy. And you can’t even begin to meet the needs of someone else if you’re not comfortable with yourself first.
So I know I keep preaching about how fixing your hormones can change your life. But I do that because I’ve seen it happen over and over again. If you’re 45 years or older, and your life and relationship aren’t where you imagined they’d be at this stage of the game… I promise you, if you felt better, looked better, and had more self-confidence… your entire existence would be the exact polar opposite of what it is today. And if you brought your significant other along for the ride, the possibilities are truly endless.
There’s a reason why we have more and more couples joining the clinic on a daily basis.
Because getting old is inevitable, but feeling old is a choice. And no matter how far yourself or your spouse have let yourselves go… You are Never Too Old to Live Like A Viking.